This Blog is for writers who take writing seriously and want to learn from other’s experience to enhance their style. I have written this as an advice for my fellow writers and who can see my objective of writing this.
Recently I have learnt so much about writing. As someone who wants to be a writer I try to learn from each opportunity that comes in my way. Not all of those opportunities are pleasant. But each event or incident has something to offer; something I can learn from. Two things have happened recently; an unpleasant small event and an amazingly big event which I have enjoyed so much. In this Blog, I will only speak of the first one and will speak about the other pleasant event in another time.
A while ago I have commented on a friend’s blog about an issue that many seem to believe is sensitive. In my comment, I have told my story and my opinion about the topic. I was honest and straight forward in my response. I have also said things that are seen as unorthodox or daring. Some have thought that it was disrespectful even though what I said related to myself only. I didn’t understand why some people felt insulted and attacked me in person rather than attacking my response. It was a brutal attack that have made me think about what i said and how i said it.
I have been disagreeing and agreeing with people on more important and more sensitive subjects but never received such harsh response. I realized that some people do not know how to communicate with others who disagree with them. They don’t even know how to disagree. Having a different opinion than someone does not mean that this person is horrible. But sometimes, people stone those who dare express their minds over something different.
When I told what happened to a friend, she said “Every person who brought about change in history has had difficulties, there are always backward people who fight it, in fact it is my personal belief that the ones that fight it hardest are the ones that find a similar battle inside them. They envy the person has moved forward, they convince themselves that they are right even though there is a voice deep down that tell them they aren’t .. we have a great religion that has lasted centuries, why are we so afraid of being challenged. In fact we should invite people to question and challenge us because in the end truth prevails … The only way a person can reach true belief and conviction is by asking questions and raising doubt until those doubts are cleared then they are depending on blind faith which is the weakest faith to have. But it is unfortunate in out society people who raise questions in the hope of finding better answers are condemned and crucified. Why? … don’t engage yourself with narrow minded people who live in denial and are so forceful with their opinion“. Then she added a quote by Winstone Chirchill where he defines a fantastic as “someone who wont change his mind and cant change the subject”
Anyways, back to my story. I am glad that I was attacked; I learnt few things from this incident.
First, I regretted replying to the attack as soon as I read it. I was emotional in my reply and so it was not strong and coherent. So the first lesson is that I should not get emotional about the attack, and if I do, I should not take action while I am still emotional. I need to control my feelings, calm down and think logically.
Second, I learnt that getting attacked is something I will always face if I ever want to be writer; if I want to be a genuine unique writer. People have different ideas and different ways of expressing their ideas; so I shouldn’t be surprised or affected if someone attacked me in the most uncivilized disgusting way.
Third, I learnt that not everyone is worth replying to. Some people are just not with the time or effort; and others just try to provoke the writer and giving them attention feeds their ego.
Fourth, I realized what I have erred; my style or way of expressing my ideas were wrong. I know that my ideas are provocative and different. But my intentions are not to provoke people; my goal is to reach out for them and let them see a different prospective on things. Thus, I should work on my own style because I am discovering flaws along the way.
And finally, I should know my audience; writing what ever I want could work for a French audience for example because they do not care about the same things we as Qataris do. It is more difficult to reach out for a Qatari audience because they seem to be sensitive about many issues; especially the ones that touches traditions, identity and religion.
I hope you found this experience helpful.