Hi Mimi – I want to thank you for writing this powerful poem and for translating it into English. I think what you have expressed here is how many Middle Eastern women are made to feel. You are such an articulate voice.
Would you mind if I were to post this poem on my blog? I’d like to write a little something about you along with the poem and have a link to your blog.
Please email me. Thanks.
Mimi so true every word. I have been Muslim for 15 years, met my husband 18 months later. For 15 years I have seen all you have spoken of. I just wrote to susie of arabia.
All I have seen for 15 years are arab and saudi men come to my country, lie to and use women here before they marry.
The pretend they are in love and make promises they cannot keep. these young women have no idea their boyfriends are not going to marry them, but dump them to marry another women.
I have also seen years of young new saudi brides being bought here. They live in horrible conditions where they are not allowed out of the home. Behind closed curtains, not allowed to answer the door. No family, or close friends.
Their men get frustrated because their new possession gets depressed and lonely. So they meet up with their ex girlfriends or find new ones while their wives sit alone at home, or with other equally depressed lonely and pregnant women.
Or the men spend all their time with other men partying.
It is happening to both sides mimi. I know many Arab and Saudi think western women have no values, this is not completely true. We are all still women who love, get hurt, are lied to, used and abused, by the same men. You are not alone.
Any Arab or Saudi woman who are going to live with their husband in western country should firstly know their husband very very well. Make sure they have friends they already know or family with them, and be prepared for some very lonely times and life behind locked doors and closed curtains. This makes me sad.I feel for any women facing this life. Its not Islamic, its the opposite.
Thank you for your kind words. It means a lot to me that so many people could understand and relate to what I have written about. I just want to point out that this poem was written out of several situations that happened to friends and family and stories that I have heard. It is so true, yet, it does not mean that all men in the Middle East are horrible and all women are oppressed. I just feel that somehow I have given an image that I am sad or oppressed. On the contrary, my sisters and I lead a very liberal life here in Qatar. I just wanted to express what many women here feel.
I know what you are talking about. I have seen this myself while studying in London. One of my friends was stalked by a saudi man, and guess what! he was married with kids! not only that, but his wife was with him. Except she never left their house. I don’t know why men believe in this strange principle “If she went out with me now, what will stop her from going out with other men after i marry her” .
However, at the same time, there were many other Middle Eastern men that treated us with nothing but respect.
I think that women should stop acting or accepting being the victim. Change is in our hands, we are the ones who agreed to this. Not only that, but we pass these norms to our children. I see mothers telling their sons “Do this you are a man, Dont do that you are man” and i see how they treat their sons like kings telling them “you are a man you are a man” while treating their daughters like maids and telling them “you are a girl you are a girl”. We have the choice to abide by these norms or simple refuse them. We should stop blaming men, and society. Society is men and women! and we are more than men in number! so why let them control us in such retarded barbaric way!
I read this over at Susie’s Big Adventure and was given the link to your blog. Thank you for sharing this sad and very true poem. It is a shame that so many women live in such conditions. I will continue stopping by your blog. Peace to you.
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